if there is a couple of things that i learned from the recent past about relationships

do not go to bed angry

i swear if your partner sleeps on a fight, it's a big sign that he/she is not really in-love with you. sleep is to conclude that you are leaving the awake world for a few hours in a peaceful state. how can you close your eyes when you know there are unresolved issues with the only person you care about the most? it's just beyond logic that you just leave it like that and sleep peacefully. yes, granted that you're tired. but im sure 10 minutes of your time is nothing compared to the emotional pain that you're causing your partner. just be considerate and talk over it. then after 10 minutes it will be a whole evening of cuddling and tight hugs. a big reward, eh?



give your partner a right to be wrongfully condescending on something

so i had this ex-bf who made a big deal when i said "yaiks, point and shoot" when we were talking about cameras. he owns a point and shoot camera. yes, i know that's insensitive and uncalled for but before i could take it back, he blurted out: "you are such a bitch, as if you dslr owners are the only children of god.". i let it go on the first time and apologized, but he kept repeating the same line whenever he would see me holding my camera. which annoyed me to pieces.
come on, there's this one thing that we know we are very good in doing. some paint, some dance, some sing, some eat fire and glass crystals. and i, for one, know that i have quite a good eye in photography. it's not professional level, but if you were to ask me now on my 'talent' i would say it is photography. but this ex-bf is such a loser that he could not let it go. it undermines the fact that it's so important to me and he could not even support me just because of a short bruising of his ego. so puh-lease, give your partner a pass on something to be arrogant and just full of him/herself. for everything else you can remind him/her to keep grounded. just dont touch that one thing that they think defines them as an individual. doing so destroys them to pieces, i swear. it's a double slap: non-supporting partner, and stepping on his/her dream. that's just not love.